change, happiness, life, love, marriage, mom

“Marriage is hard”​

First and foremost let me start by saying  I am not a professional nor a specialist in the matter, but I am a wife and it’s close enough LOL.

Marriage is hard. No, really it is so “hard.” When I lived at home it was so nice. Sure I had rules, mandated chores, and a curfew.  Now that I have my own home I have “freedom” and chores lots and lots of chores. Cleaning, cooking, and laundry have become those really annoying friends I just can’t seem to get rid of, no matter how much I’ll avoid my house they’re still there waiting for me when I get home. I don’t mind the cooking I love to cook, but I hate doing dishes. Ps. Husband, if you’re reading this, for Christmas I want a dishwasher! Also, laundry is hard to get done when you’re home alone and you have a fear of basements “tehehe.”

Before I got married my mom warned me I was going to miss her and that marriage is hard and it’s not easy. She was somewhat right. I miss her tons! I mostly miss her cooking alongside her support when doing chores.  When she mentioned marriage was difficult I imagined that maybe she meant Oscar and I would not agree often or get along or God knows what. I have to say she was actually wrong about that. A lot of people told us “marriage is hard.” We heard that repeatedly along with “The first year of marriage is the hardest.” I beg to differ because that was a lie, well in our experience so far. The only thing we disagree the most about is what we’re watching on Netflix tonight LOL.

Marriage to some people can perhaps seem like the end, but to us it is just the beginning. Oscar is such a patient, loving husband. I am seriously very lucky. He doesn’t ask me to cook every day. He doesn’t expect the house to always be clean and guys homeboy does his OWN LAUNDRY and sometimes mine! When I sneak a few things in his basket LOL. Oscar is my ideal dream husband. I love to cook and clean for him as crazy as that sounds. Somedays I’m extremely tired from work and I order pizza and he is the happiest because that’s his favorite anyways. My point is marriage isn’t so hard for us yet. Perhaps things change when you add a tiny roommate to the mix, but as of now, we’re good.

I’m not going to lie when we got married I was scared. I feared that everyone that said to us “marriage is hard” would be right. I feared we wouldn’t find our rhythm in life. That our busy careers would be too much or that coming from different managed households would affect us and it hasn’t. I have to say we did find our rhythm and we have been dancing away these past ten months so in love. I do believe marriage could be hard or difficult when there isn’t much communication or compromise, but marriage is like any other relationship or friendship. In order for it to work, you have to give the same amount of what you take in order to receive.

Happy ten months my love!

happiness, love, mom

Thank you.

Thank you mami.

Thank you for your sacrifices. Thank you for your unconditional love. Thank you for the life lessons. Thank you for the amount of support you’ve given me as a mother and as a friend.

There would never be enough gifts, money, flowers and jewelry in the world I could give my mother to reward her and pay her back for everything she’s done for me. I’ve always admire my mom, but I think now that I’m older I admire her and understand her more.

My mother to me is such an inspiration. She has always given me love and support and everything else that I’ve ever needed. She has put myself and my siblings before her an anyone else. She has gone through difficult times in her life and has managed to be the best mother she’s always been. I thank god everyday for her and all she’s done.

As a person that works with mothers constantly I know the hard work and sacrifices they make everyday. My career has really allowed me to see what a mother deals with on a daily basis. What she does for her child and her family. The amount of love, support, and attention they give their children along with the responsibility of being a house wife or head of household is enormous amount of work.

I see my families in my case load and I see so much of the similarity in the moms that put in the work for their children and families and I can’t help but see my mother in them. My job has really allowed me to know what a mother should somewhat be like and what a mother truly faces on a day to day basis.

I have grown to love my mothers in my case load and I cannot thank them enough for allowing me in their lives and showing me what a mother does on a daily basis and also teaching me a whole lot about my own mother the struggles and the sacrifices she faced.

Happy Mother’s Day to all the wonderful mommas. Especially a mi mami te quiero mucho mami chula.