change, happiness, life, love, marriage, mom

“Marriage is hard”​

First and foremost let me start by saying  I am not a professional nor a specialist in the matter, but I am a wife and it’s close enough LOL.

Marriage is hard. No, really it is so “hard.” When I lived at home it was so nice. Sure I had rules, mandated chores, and a curfew.  Now that I have my own home I have “freedom” and chores lots and lots of chores. Cleaning, cooking, and laundry have become those really annoying friends I just can’t seem to get rid of, no matter how much I’ll avoid my house they’re still there waiting for me when I get home. I don’t mind the cooking I love to cook, but I hate doing dishes. Ps. Husband, if you’re reading this, for Christmas I want a dishwasher! Also, laundry is hard to get done when you’re home alone and you have a fear of basements “tehehe.”

Before I got married my mom warned me I was going to miss her and that marriage is hard and it’s not easy. She was somewhat right. I miss her tons! I mostly miss her cooking alongside her support when doing chores.  When she mentioned marriage was difficult I imagined that maybe she meant Oscar and I would not agree often or get along or God knows what. I have to say she was actually wrong about that. A lot of people told us “marriage is hard.” We heard that repeatedly along with “The first year of marriage is the hardest.” I beg to differ because that was a lie, well in our experience so far. The only thing we disagree the most about is what we’re watching on Netflix tonight LOL.

Marriage to some people can perhaps seem like the end, but to us it is just the beginning. Oscar is such a patient, loving husband. I am seriously very lucky. He doesn’t ask me to cook every day. He doesn’t expect the house to always be clean and guys homeboy does his OWN LAUNDRY and sometimes mine! When I sneak a few things in his basket LOL. Oscar is my ideal dream husband. I love to cook and clean for him as crazy as that sounds. Somedays I’m extremely tired from work and I order pizza and he is the happiest because that’s his favorite anyways. My point is marriage isn’t so hard for us yet. Perhaps things change when you add a tiny roommate to the mix, but as of now, we’re good.

I’m not going to lie when we got married I was scared. I feared that everyone that said to us “marriage is hard” would be right. I feared we wouldn’t find our rhythm in life. That our busy careers would be too much or that coming from different managed households would affect us and it hasn’t. I have to say we did find our rhythm and we have been dancing away these past ten months so in love. I do believe marriage could be hard or difficult when there isn’t much communication or compromise, but marriage is like any other relationship or friendship. In order for it to work, you have to give the same amount of what you take in order to receive.

Happy ten months my love!

change, choosing love, happiness, life, love, marriage, Uncategorized

​The broken road. . .

 

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Have you ever had your heart so broken that you probably thought you would never be able to recover? I’ve been reflecting on what has been of my life recently and what I always imagined it would be like. During teen years I believe we have a good amount of heartbreak. Either caused by our friends, family, decisions, and relationships. I personally believe those heartbreaks are the ones that set the road for the rest of our lives.

Out of all the multiple heartbreak and disappointments I’ve gone through, there have been many situations I’ve played over and over again in my head and I always ask myself this question, is this destiny or is this consequences of my actions? Is my life already written? Does God really have a plan for me? Can I change my destiny? Am I getting what I deserve and asked for? Is this the platform for the rest of my life?

Not only did I see a broken road ahead of me before the sun. I saw darkness and fear. I had this giant doubt within myself and what I was capable of doing. I remember telling God and no longer asking him for it but demanding him that I NEEDED CHANGE. I said, “give me what you want as long as it’s what I need.” I kid you not it took less than 3 months and God put me in my place. PRAYER TRULY IS POWERFUL.

The course of this recent and past year has been very eye-opening to me and has truly made me a huge believer that God gives you not what you ask for but what you need. God has mended aches in my heart from the past and has truly given me what I needed to heal. When I believed all was lost and all was gone he had a plan for me all along. I just needed to be patient and listen. Heartbreak I believed I would never recover from literally lead me down a path to a life I would have never imagined in my wildest dreams.

God has placed me on this road that sometimes it’s hard not to question or doubt because it has brought me the most wonderful blessings ever. Although they say God never makes mistakes it hard when at times it feels so surreal. The heartbreaks and the past mistakes have been definitely been worth it all. I would do it all over again if I knew it would lead me down this path. To where now I have this self-esteem that NO ONE could ever take from me. I have faith that is stronger than ever and most importantly where I have a home with a husband that loves me unconditionally and takes me for who I am.